Start by self-acknowledging and self-validating your personal achievements, even when they don’t look enormous.
How often do we celebrate our children as they grow? For every milestone, there are usually happy cheers of adults that signal such joy of accomplishment. The first smile, first crawl, first step, first word, first day at school, first graduation, first award…are all celebrated. Children love it when adults cheer them on. They get more confident as the applause grows louder. This creates happiness amongst us all – the children are happy, and we find our happiness in theirs. Unfortunately, the applause dims as they grow into adulthood and maturity.
All of a sudden, the world begins to take more notice of our errors, our failings, our shortcomings to the point where we ourselves no longer notice our little baby steps and our small victories. As the naysayers get louder, so also does our confidence diminish. We consistently face the pressures of striving for “the new”, “the next”, “the better”, etc. that we don’t take the time to truly honor the moment, the present or today which is where we are at and all we have right now.
Joel Osteen says this about self-celebration:
“When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself.
When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself.
It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged.
It’s up to you.
Encouragement should come from the inside.”
What Does it Mean to Celebrate Yourself?
First, it is not for anyone else, neither is it synonymous to bragging. It is about accepting who you are in the moment, or on your way to becoming. It is self-acknowledging and self-validating your personal achievements, even when they don’t look enormous. It is enjoying every phase before you advance to another step. It is a major part of manifestation.
How do you celebrate yourself?
- Take a break! Don’t hustle till you drop.
- Create a me-time to look at your daily, weekly or other accomplishments. Acknowledge them.
- Appreciate your wins, no matter how small.
- Be grateful for everything in your life.
- Buy yourself a gift for things you have done well. Attach that gift to the accomplishment you’re celebrating.
- Take time out for some fun activities and self-congratulation.
- Do some journaling. Write a letter to yourself. Include mementos, memorable experiences, the things that you’re truly grateful for. Write about your journey in life, especially how well you have fared.
- Take a vacation that includes pretty much those things that you enjoy doing. If you love kayaking, by all means do it. Indulge yourself with a bowl of ice cream. Eat delicious meals. Go shopping. Read a book.
- Indulge yourself. Get a massage, a pedicure or set aside a day at the spa.
What will it do?
- The more you celebrate yourself, the more you can cheer yourself up to do more or better.
- It makes you more grateful. The more grateful you are, the more you’ll live a happier and more fulfilled life.
- It increases your confidence and by extension, it strengthens those actions that got you there.
- It attracts more positive energy into your life and that increases your ability to do more. That’s not all. The more positive energy you radiate, the more you affect people around you positively and ultimately make the world a better place.
- It boosts your immunity because of the feel-good hormone called “dopamine”. Dopamine is a hormone and neurotransmitter that’s an important part of your brain’s reward system. It is associated with pleasurable sensations.
- Celebrating yourself makes the journey easier and more enjoyable.
Most of the time, we take life too seriously and become so fixated on the outcome that we forget to relax and enjoy the moments.
Life is a journey, not a destination. There’s no place called there, so relax and give yourself time to enjoy as you move ahead in this journey. I encourage you, stop in the middle of everything. Smell the roses, kiss your babies, hug your spouse, appreciate yourself, take yourself out to dinner, have a glass of wine, call a cleaner to clean your home. Give yourself a break! As you celebrate your blessings each day, your life will take a turn for the better.
I will end with this famous W. H. Davis quote:
“What is this life if, full of care, we have no time to stand and stare? No time to stand beneath the boughs and stare as long as sheep or cows. No time to see, when woods we pass, where squirrels hide their nuts in grass. No time to see, in broad daylight, streams full of stars, like skies at night. A poor life this, if full of care, we have no time to stand and stare”.
Need more inspiration to celebrate your victories? Listen to this Episode 64 of The Immigrant Life Podcast and let’s celebrate together.